June 26, 2009

Ladies and gentlemen... Mr. Caleb at the microphone

Ladies and gentlemen... Mr. Caleb at the microphone
Photo of the Week
2009 Week 23


I think he looks like a radio show host in the above picture -

so serious with so much to say...


For many months, he's been using whatever he could find (drum sticks, recorder, wooden spoon) as a microphone until Christmas, when he received a toy microphone that magnifies sound

Whether playing radio host or imitating a singer belting out tunes,

he looks and sounds good with the microphone.

Perhaps there's a microphone in his future?



June 23, 2009

Bigger than her brother

I am currently swamped with work (what's new) and really have NO TIME TO WRITE THIS entry, at all, but I am doing it anyway. I want to keep you all in the loop.

I had my 37th week prenatal visit this afternoon, at which we took one last look at Summer Baby through the ultrasound, to do a final check of her size, the amniotic fluid, and the umbilical chord. Everything looks good, but the real news of the day is that the estimated current weight of our second-born child is... wait for it... wait for it...

8 pounds and 15 ounces


right now, at this very moment, at 37 weeks - 3 weeks before her due date. That is a mere 3 ounces less than what Caleb was at birth, at almost 40 weeks. Babies grow half a pound each week in the last month of their uterine captivity. Which means we could theoretically have a 10 pound baby in 2 weeks at our scheduled C-section... if I don't go into labor before then.

I've been feeling a lot more Braxton-Hicks contractions in the last week with this baby then I ever felt with Caleb, so I am hoping she waits at least until next week when my family arrives...

When the OB came in, all she said was "Well, it looks like she made the final decision for you at 8 pounds and 15 ounces already." And then, she looked at the printed out sonogram pictures and said: "Oh, my gosh, LOOK AT THAT HEAD! That's the biggest head..." She didn't finish the sentence, and I was wondering if she meant to say "...that I've ever seen!" At any rate, Summer Baby's head is still measuring 4 weeks larger than her age.

We also found out that she is breech and due to her size, no longer expected to turn into the proper position - there's just no room for her to do that. So, there's another reason we would have to go with a C-section, being that her head is THE HUGEST PART OF HER - it really cannot come out last. That wouldn't be safe, at all.

So, the countdown has begun... I tell you, knowing that she is almost 9 pounds already (give or take half a pound) doesn't make me feel real confident that she will stay in for another 2 weeks, but I'm hoping. I have just this week begun to feel kind of uncomfortable in my skin and now I know why. This baby is stretching me to the limit. She is almost certain to surpass the birth size of her brother.

And isn't that what every little girl dreams to be known for?

Wall climber


Wall climber

Photo of the Week

2009 Week 22



Because there aren't enough toys in the house.

June 20, 2009

On the happiest day of the year


Today is the happiest day of the year according to a mathematical formula worked out by Cliff Arnall using the equation O + (NxS) + Cpm/T + He. O stands for outdoor activity, N for nature, S is socialization with friends, Cpm is childhood positive memories, T stands for temperature and He for holiday expected.

By the afternoon, we had sunny weather and we were outdoors in nature, playing with a new pool for Caleb, socializing with each other and creating for him many happy childhood memories. The holiday was already here (my birthday), yet still expected tomorrow (our anniversary and Father's Day).

Well, I cheated a little bit, because the math formula declared June 20 to be the happiest day of the year LAST YEAR, actually naming yesterday, June 19th, this year. But let's just call that a mistake on their part, because obviously June 20th remained the happiest day of the year for us in 2009.



















June 19, 2009

Nesting in action


A couple of weeks ago, I finally put some of my nesting thoughts into action - with the help of hubby, as you can see, who undertook to shampoo the carpet all through the house. We also hung up some long overdue paintings and some of my photos, though there are still quite a few in waiting. One major task I've been wanting to do is reorganize my office and remove the playpen, which has been serving as a toy station for the past year or so. We boxed up and put away a lot of Caleb's toys, because our house was just not made to handle all of his toys being strewn about. And very importantly, I was not made to handle looking at them. We plan to rotate them every few months and this way, his old toys will become new once again.


Caleb now has a new art/activity corner in my office. Originally, I was going to remove the second desk with the second work computer, but before I did such a foolish thing, the brilliant idea occurred to me that hey, there's a free desk here, the child might actually benefit from having it in my office at which to draw/play with Play-Doh, and later read/study, etc. while I am busy at work. Now there's no need to deny him the use of the feared MARKERS, because he should be supervised closely as he draws with them on drawing pads placed on the floor. With the carpet underneath. Now he can color to his heart's content right on a desk like real people do. He loves his new art station and works at it several times a day.


So we got a few things done from our list, not all of them by any means, but it was a good start. We also had a Baby Shower at the house, which was really nice. I received many beautiful baby girl things and, being the only male attendee, even Caleb was surprised with a gift or two. There was a cake served at the shower with a baby on it, which has now become one of Caleb's favorite carry-along toys. We've continued our nesting in action last week, whenever we had a day (hour) off, cleaning out closets, buying new deck furniture, scrubbing walls. We plan to do a few more things this weekend, in addition to celebrating our birthdays and anniversary. The only other thing I want for this weekend is the inclusion of some water fun - whether in the form of canoeing, pontoon boating and jumping off for a swim (don't worry, I don't mean literally jumping off with my 9 month belly, it'll be more like slowly lowering myself down on the stairs until I'm finally in the water and weightless), or just plain beach swimming - we shall see if the weather cooperates. There have been few rainless days lately.


It is difficult to believe that in just a little over 2 weeks, our baby girl will be here - how on earth did time pass so quickly? We're a little bit in disbelief about the passing of time, but very much looking forward to meeting this new little person and watching our family grow once again.

June 17, 2009

More puzzle prowess

I thought you might enjoy these videos, taken
yesterday of Caleb and I playing with his new puzzle
(the one that's supposed to be for ages 5+).
Basically, he handed me each state
and instructed me on where to place it.
He knows where all the pieces go.
He can put the puzzle together all by himself,
I noticed earlier, when I turned around from my computer
and glimpsed him placing the last few pieces.
He enjoys it when we sit down to play with him, though,
and being that his brain is ahead of his hands -
(he knows where they go, but
sometimes the pieces are hard to fit and he messes with them a bit)
this was the perfect game:
he was my brain and I was his hands.

(The second one is in the sidebar.)

June 13, 2009

Impromptu picnic


Caleb and I had an impromptu picnic lunch on the deck today. We ate just what we had on hand: grapes, black olives, kiwis, cheese, and dill herring with bread. Not exactly a traditional picnic, but it suited us fine. Caleb loved being outdoors for his lunch - he had been playing outside with his water pitchers, pots and pans, pouring and filling them with water, while I was busy planting some basil, so I thought, why not stay out for lunch, as well. The weather was perfect right then, not too hot and not yet raining, and the sun was not yet beating down on us. I will now enundate you with the numerous pictures I took. If you are a stranger, just passing by, I am sorry. He is cute, but you probably don't need to see 20 pictures of him. If you are family, consider this my Saturday gift to you.


It was a rare lazy Saturday - yes, those are pajamas on the child.
What you don't see, but I am going to tell you anyway - I'm still wearing pajamas, too.




He insisted on eating the cubed cheese with a fork.

He wanted to eat the olives and grapes that way too, but that didn't work out so well.


Feeding Mommy grapes - that camera is in the way, Mommy!


His choice of book - reading and counting during lunch


Washing it all down with some cold water

With a full tummy, it's time to run circles around Mommy

Did you hear that? Choo-choo train!

Now, a bird! No, two birds!! (Loudly singing to each other) Wow!!!

June 12, 2009

Riding alone

Riding alone
Photo of the Week
2009 Week 21

I suppose he was thinking:
"I cannot believe they are letting me do this - alone!
Should I pinch myself?"

As realization set in that

yes, it's the beginning of a new era - that of riding alone -

his joy could not be contained.

June 11, 2009

A birthday, a diagnosis, and a mother's musings on it all

In 4 short weeks, our daughter will be here. We have been scheduled for a C-section for July 7th. Our Summer Baby's birthday will be July 7, 2009 - if all goes as planned.

I am the most unlikely candidate to schedule a surgery for one of the most natural processes of life - childbirth. It's not who I am - at all. Yet I who don't even use medicine, not even a painkiller in the past 5 years (except for IV drugs for 2 days after my first C-section), have scheduled a surgery to deliver my second child.

I've made the decision with the knowledge of several things. One of these things I haven't talked about yet - our baby has what's called a Single Umbilical Artery, also called a two-vein chord. Basically, there are 2 arteries and 1 vein in the umbilical chord (one vein carrying nutrients/oxygen in, two arteries carrying waste out) and the baby's chord is missing one of the arteries that carries the waste out. This condition presents in approximately 1-2% of all births, its cause is unknown, though more common in older mothers, and it is considered a fairly common occurrence by obstetricians, but it can signal several problems. In most (about 70%) of cases, the baby is perfectly fine, the SUA being an isolated condition, which is the case with our baby. In a lesser number of cases, it can be a soft marker for other health problems, most commonly heart and kidney problems.

We've known about this since the 20th week ultrasound scan, when we were told that everything looks healthy, but that there seems to be a two-vein chord. We were then referred to a perinatologist for a Level II ultrasound to make sure they didn't miss anything and he confirmed that all the organs look healthy; the two-vein chord is just an isolated condition.

Of course, you know me, I research everything, so between the first diagnosis and the perinatologist's visit 3 days later, I became an expert on the condition and was able to have an intelligent discussion about it with him (surprising him a little, to say the least).

Since the SUA is an isolated condition, basically at this point, we just need to monitor the amniotic fluid level and the size of the baby, as one of the risk factors is IUGR (intra-uterine growth restriction) due to the single outgoing artery putting extra stress on the placenta. If the placenta is not able to supply enough nutrients/oxygen to the baby, the baby uses what is supplied for the most vital of functions (heart, brain) and slows down kidney function, i.e. not putting out the needed urine, which is what makes up most of the amniotic fluid at the end of the pregnancy. Low amniotic fluid, of course is not safe, especially when the chord only has two veins running through it (thus less Wharton's jelly surrounding it) and isn't as sturdy as a three-vein chord. So the amniotic fluid level and the size of the baby need to be monitored in late pregnancy - those are the two main concerns. If the fluid level and baby's size look good at 32 weeks, it is very unlikely to become a problem in the upcoming weeks.

We found out at the 32 week ultrasound that not only is the amniotic fluid level better than average, but that our baby is already a whopping 5 pounds! Estimated to reach 9 pounds and 4 ounces if carried to 40 weeks! I was watching her head size measurement come up on the screen (and remember, I was exactly 32 weeks along) - the head size came up measuring 35 weeks and 6 days, almost 4 weeks larger! What can I say, I have big-headed babies. From good German stock, I suppose. :)

So the good news is that my placenta is still rocking it, despite the disadvantage of the dysfunctional chord, and I'm still making just as large a baby as ever. Woo-hoo! No growth restriction!

On the other hand, I am making a very large baby here. With Caleb, we had no idea of his size, as there was no reason for any ultrasounds past the one at 20 weeks. It was the one thing I hadn't considered at the time - that the baby may be too big for me to give birth to -although I diligently studied every aspect of natural childbirth, and then some: from the most advantegous position in which to give birth (it's not flat on your back, but the squatting position, which opens up the pelvis by 1/3 more) to the various ways epidurals and other drugs can disrupt the physicological process of birth, delayed chord cutting, coached pushing vs. physiologic pushing, the precise way the uterine muscles move during labor and what wonders breathing and relaxed muscles in the rest of the body can do to facilitate its contraction almost painlessly (worked exactly like I read it), etc., etc.

Caleb was 9 pounds 2 ounces with a huge head and apparently too big for my body to pass through. My cervix stayed at 8 cm for about ten hours, then started to swell, and towards the end Caleb was not tolerating the marathon-length labor (I'm sure butting his head up against something that didn't give for 2 whole days wasn't fun) - he had to be delivered through a C-section.

I had been planning a VBAC (vaginal birth after Cesarean) throughout this pregnancy, thinking I already know what to expect in labor, it isn't bad, and worse comes to worse if my cervix stops dilating, we'll just end up with a C-section again. There's no harm in trying, the risks of uterine rupture during a VBAC are only slightly higher than they are with a C-section, but the C-section of course has its own risks, being major abdominal surgery (which trump the uterine rupture risks).

However, the SUA diagnosis has added a different twist to things, and after much research, I've come to the conclusion that it is safer for the baby to be born by C-section if she is just as large as Caleb was (we'll get the final word at 37 weeks) - considering my C-section history, narrow subpubic arch, which is strongly associated with prolonged labor and forcep or vacuum assistance at the end, coupled with the less sturdy two-vein chord, which is more easily compressed than a normal chord, especially during a lengthy labor/pushing phase. Compression of the chord during birth is very serious and it requires an emergency C-section, and even then, sometimes they cannot save the baby. Of course, it is possible to give birth to an SUA baby without any problems at all, but with everything considered in my specific case, I think the C-section is the safer option for this baby. Which means, I will never push a baby out of my body and experience the joy of natural childbirth (just the joy of post-childbirth -THE BABY) or put to practice most of the things I learned about childbirth in my first pregnancy. They do not allow VBAC after having had two C-sections. This was my one chance.

With all that said, I feel at peace with my decision. The health and safety of the baby is what's most important, not my experience.

We've believed, almost immediately after the initial shock that there could be anything wrong at all, that we had a healthy baby. Fear and worry have not crept into this pregnancy due to this diagnosis; I did not allow it. I prayed to God that first night and concluded right then and there that I was not going to worry about this situation, because worry is not from God, that I choose to have faith instead. God has blessed me with such peace during my first pregnancy and He has done the same during this second.

As I now prepare for the impending birth on July 7th, I trust that God will continue to keep me in His care - even as I put my care into frail human hands, as well.

June 7, 2009

A day in colonial Williamsburg


The next day we woke up early to attend an 8 a.m. Prayer Walk in colonial Williamsburg organized by "Virginians for Liberty." The date was historic, since back in 1774, June 1st was set aside as "a day of fasting, humiliation, and prayer" in colonial Williamsburg, in protest of the closing of Boston harbor by King George III. Since we happened to be there exactly at this time, we thought that we should join in protesting the un-American changes coming from Washington and to lift our country up in prayer. The walk started at the Capitol, proceeded down Duke of Gloucester Street, and ended at Bruton Parish Church.
There were about 100 people in attendance.


Bright eyed and bushy tailed early in the morning




While walking down the street, we sang a few songs -

and Caleb sang along.


The endpoint of our walk - Bruton Parish Church

There were several speeches given here




during which Caleb enjoyed gathering rocks...






...and throwing them.


As a matter of fact, he did that most of the day

stopping every few feet for one irresistable rock or another.
Those colonial rocks are really something else, I guess...


The colonial water fountains are great, too


And look! Colonial tree to hide behind!


colonial birds...


and sheep.


But he had to leave all that behind to enjoy the colonial musicians

at the Gambols


and to down a couple of drinks


Whatcha talkin' about, Willis???





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